For executors · Beneficiaries
Tell Them Before, Not After
Most estate arguments about jewelry are not about money. They are about somebody finding out afterwards.
Unhurried, itemized, and with a written record. Bring the co-executor, the attorney, or whoever else needs to see it.
2004
Buying precious metals in South Florida since
Itemized
Every item weighed and priced separately, in front of you
Written
A record the estate can put in the file
No pressure
Take the offer away. It will still be there
Sentiment is not proportional to value
The piece a beneficiary cares most about is frequently worth the least. A modest ring somebody wore every day carries more weight in a family than a valuable piece nobody remembers, and an executor who sells on value alone can cause real damage without realizing it.
The requests are also usually modest. People ask for the watch their father wore, or a ring they remember, not for the most valuable item in the estate. Circulating photographs before value is discussed keeps it that way, because the conversation stays about memory rather than about money.
What tends to work
- Circulate photographs before anything is sold.
- Let people say what they want, before value is discussed.
- Deal with sentimental items separately from the sale.
- Be transparent about what is being sold and why.
- Keep everybody on the same information.
Handling sentimental items separately
Deal with the pieces people have asked for first and outside the valuation, then treat what remains as the estate's asset to realize. Mixing the two turns a straightforward distribution into a negotiation.
Where two people want the same item, that is a conversation for the family and the personal representative rather than something to be resolved by selling it. Selling a contested item rarely settles anything.
How we handle it
- 01Give you time — we will hold an appointment while you consult.
- 02Provide photographs and an itemized list you can circulate.
- 03Never pressure a decision made on behalf of other people.
- 04Wait, if the family needs longer.
Circulate photographs and ask people what they want before anybody discusses value. The requests are almost always about sentiment rather than worth, and they are far easier to accommodate before a sale than to explain after one.
Said plainly
Where we stop
We do not mediate between beneficiaries and we will not buy from one heir when another is disputing it. That is a matter for the personal representative and their attorney.
FAQ
Common questions
- Should we ask beneficiaries first?
- Yes, with photographs, before value is discussed. Sentiment is rarely about value.
- What if beneficiaries disagree?
- That is for the personal representative and their attorney. We will not buy into a dispute.
- Can we take time to decide?
- As much as you need. We are not in a hurry.
- Do you mediate?
- No.
What we buy
Gold Jewelry
Most inherited gold jewelry is worth its metal content. A meaningful minority is worth considerably more, and telling them apart is the whole job.
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Sterling Flatware & Hollowware
The canteen nobody wants and nobody wants to throw away. Usually worth real money as metal, occasionally worth more as a set.
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Coins & Bullion
An inherited coin box usually contains bullion, which is worth its metal, and collectible coins, which are worth whatever a collector will pay.
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Watches
A watch is worth what the watch market says, which usually has nothing to do with the gold in the case.
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Diamonds & Stones
Stones are valued on quality, not weight, and the resale market bears very little relation to what the piece cost when it was bought.
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Costume & the Rest
Most of what is in an estate jewelry box is not precious metal, and some of it is still worth something to somebody.
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More for executors
Authority to Sell
Being named in a will is not the same as being appointed, and selling before appointment can create a genuine problem.
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Records & Accounting
An executor accounts to beneficiaries and to the court. A receipt that says "assorted jewelry" is not an account.
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Timing
Executors frequently feel pressure to resolve things quickly. On jewelry, very little of that pressure is real.
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Next step
Run it both ways before you decide.
No credit check and no obligation. Tell us what you hold and what the money is for, and if selling is the better answer for your situation you will be told that first.